Signs of Being Mentally Weak (copied from Quora Digest)

 

1. You care too much what other people think of you. Everyday, there’s a number of people who wake up, with the sole goal of becoming offended by you. Don’t disappoint them.
2. You can’t keep promises. I’m not even talking ’bout promises to others, but to yourself. Best example is working out: You told yourself you’d get into shape, but as soon as you tired from work or school, you won’t even go to the gym.
3. You get overwhelmed with the smallest problems and immediately throw your hands up and surrender. Nothing worthwhile in life comes easy or without failure, rejection and sacrifice. Don’t expect that everything is handed to you on a silver platter! I failed two businesses before I started one that did “okay”. I failed two relationships, before I met my dream wife. I failed at getting lean and muscular numerous times, before I got the “hang” of it….
4. You’ve been FAT for years but you’re doing NOTHING to fix it. Look, there’s nothing wrong with being fat. If that’s what you really want, then you do you. But…if deep down inside, you’d love to be lean, healthy and confident in your own skin, then why don’t you change?
5. You’re inauthentic. Contrary to what you might think, I wasn’t always as harsh and straight forward as I am now. In fact, I was a shy, timid, spineless idiot. I never spoke my truth and always agreed and smiled. Needless to say, my life was a mess. I was being used, manipulated and treated like a doormat. That was entirely my fault. I let it happen to me, because I couldn’t say “No.”
6. You’re a DDD (Dopamine Dependent Dreamer) and watch porn and play video games - Do you struggle with motivation? Do you struggle with being productive or keeping promises to yourself? Do you struggle to do hard things, like writing, reading “dry” texts, building a website, working out….? This might very well be, because you’re jackin’ off to porn or playing endless sessions of “League of Legends”. You see, our brains crave dopamine. Every time you engage in a behavior that’s fun, entertaining and engaging, your brain releases dopamine, which feels incredibly good to us and prompts us to repeat that behavior (pleasure and pain principle at work). Here’s the problem…You can train your brain to release dopamine to unhealthy and unproductive behaviors! Porn for example, feels incredibly good to us. It might even rival crack for that matter. The problem is, when you “spend” all your dopamine on porn, the hard things, the valuable task such as learning, reading, creating feel even MORE boring because there’s no immediate dopamine rush. It’s not exciting. It’s not highly stimulating. So, you won’t do it and thus..become mentally weaker and weaker.
7. You always WAIT for Motivation to Strike - This one is related to #6, but deserves to be a standalone. You’re always waiting to feel motivated to change your life, but because you never “feel” the motivation, you don’t do the hard stuff that’s necessary. Motivation will always be a fickle beast and you can’t rely on it to show up when you need it. That’s the bad news. The good news is, you can create motivation by ACTING as if you’re motivated. Motion beats meditation.